Our social life is, in fact, unforeseen human relationships that connect us with individuals, groups and the culture around us, influenced, influenced and adapted to them all of them. The family is the basic social unit and the first environment, which takes care of the individual. It includes the strongest influences that guide his childhood growth. A good home environment in which there is interest in cultural affairs at the beginning of an individual's life has the greatest role in physical, psychological and mental development. Although a good environment does not make individuals the same, it gives each individual the opportunity to grow to the maximum extent that his abilities qualify for him.

The child by nature tends to imitate others, especially adults or older ones, and childhood imitation is a strong pillar of learning and acquiring different skills. Development, for example, depends on imitating young children of adults around them in their voices and expressive movements.

The child relates to the culture that dominates the life of the family and the large external society, and is influenced by it and imbued with the teachings of religion, traditions, custom and creation, and sometimes myths, myths and some patterns of uncomeous behavior. Thus, from the beginning of his life stages to the end, the individual grows in a cultural framework that interacts with him and nurtures his growth paths and stages of development. This social framework is represented in the child's social environment, his family in which he lives and the influences and cultural relations to which he is exposed in his stages of development.

The family is the first moderator responsible for raising a child, the psychological strength of the individual as it forms the desired different attitudes, values and behavioral standards.

It can be said that the family plays a great role in caring for children - from birth - and in shaping their morals and behavior, and how beautiful is the saying of Omar bin Abdul Aziz - may God have mercy on him - (goodness from God and literature from fathers).

Family and building values and behavior:

Parents have special methods of values and behavior they practice towards their children on different occasions, so parents' deviations are one of the most dangerous things that generate children's deviation.

Value guidance starts within the family first, school and community. It is the family that earns the child his values and knows the truth and wrong, good and evil, and he receives these values without discussion in his first year, where the elements of his personality are determined, and the features of his identity are distinguished in his behavior and morals. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the head of the family to teach his family and children high values and good

Risks facing the family:

There are many risks faced by the family, and it is not possible to elaborate on them, the most prominent of which are briefly addressed:

A- Contradiction in parents’ words and behaviors:

Some parents contradict themselves, and you find them ordering the children to do things while they disagree with them, and these things cause contradiction in the children. The father who lies teaches his children to lie, as well as the mother who deceives her neighbor with the hearing of her daughter teaches her daughter the disadvantages of morality.

B. School-family schizophrenia:

The schizophrenia between the role of the family in care and guidance, and the role of the school in education has many negative effects. Therefore, bridges of cooperation between the family and the school should be built, and an atmosphere of trust and cooperation should be created that helps to promote children towards progression, the peasant, good construction and healthy, informed and giving education.

C. Empty and lack of use of time:

Children should occupy their time with benefit and benefit, the Prophet says: (Two blessings in which many people are absent, health and emptiness) “ Narrated by Al-Bukhari, Hadith 6412” There are works in which they contribute with the help of their parents and righteousness, and can be accustomed to attending parents' councils and seminars of science and useful

Finally, this is a set of brief pedagogical guidelines:

1 - Trying to devote enough time to sitting with children, and exchanging various conversations: social, academic, cultural and other news.

2. Focus on moral education and good ideals, and that parents should be a good role model for their children.

3. Respect for children through mutual respect, awareness development, frankness and clarity.

4 – Understand the psychology of children, and give them confidence in themselves.

5. Involve children in social roles and useful work.

6. Accepting diversity in children's personal choices, such as choosing dress and some hobbies, as long as there are no personal or social caveats.

7. Constant encouragement to children, approval and praise; and even providing gifts and rewards, whenever they present noble and successful deeds in their lives.

8. Do not ridicule and threaten permanent punishment of children, whenever they fail in their studies or make mistakes unintentionally; rather, the problem is touched calmly, trying to overcome the error with wisdom, and good guidance

9. Failure to show the irregularities and disputes that occur between parents in front of the hearing of their children.

10 - Good patience in raising children, enduring what happens to them of stubbornness or disobedience, and praying for their goodness and success.

Hence, I would like to emphasize that the role of the family in caring for children is the strongest pillar of society influencing the formation of children's personality, guiding their behavior, and preparing them for the future capable and effective personalities.

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