In New Zealand, media devices like mobile phones have become ordinary and part of our everyday lives. They act as a portal to friends, family and coworkers. They help bring those at a distance into the immediacy of where and how we are now, in this moment, this space/place. I'm interested in discovering how and why such devices are used during ritualised events like funerals or for Maori, tangi. Anyone have any ideas, or know of related research?
I support it in a sense that the elderly and disabled in my family who can't attend such functions do appreciate that they can have some sense of connection once they see footage, hear eulogies, hymns, see photos etc....but I do think it depends on the individual and of course being mindful of the family who are grieving (i.e. not being blatantly obvious). When my father passed of course during the tangi, it was a little difficult for me to jump on my devices...but my family and I were so grateful post-tangi as we saw some memorable moments with family and friends in photo's on social networks - obviously others were on thier devices during the funeral...but it did help with the grieving and healing...I wasn't offended at all...
You feel it - y'know that wairua that tells you when something doesn't feel right, or you feel a peace when you know it's ok...it all depends on the motives behind using the devices too...
Jemaima is correct that a video of the service can be a boon to those who cannot attend, but it can also be a sacred memento as well, providing that it is done unobtrusively. The devices also are appropriate for playing music when no other recourse is available. Mark has a point. Unless the devices are unobtrusive and tasteful, the open display of devices at a funeral or ceremony detracts from the solemness of the occasion. Imagine someone asking another to move because they are in the way or asking attendees to bunch up to get them in the shot.
Mark's "screenheads" include those who cannot put their devices away, cannot forego social media, for serious and solemn affairs. It is part of a trend, in the U.S. at least, of laziness and disrespect. We have people going to places of worship, weddings, and funerals dressed in T-shirts and shorts. Dressing up is a sign of respect. Respect to the institution, respect to the couple, respect to the deceased and their family. If you do not dress properly for these occasions in your life, then you are broadcasting a message of "it is not important to me".
My constructive suggestion is to read Sherry Turkle's most recent two books.
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