Communication skills develop, probably over years, from rules in curricula to context-dependent behaviors in clinical situations. We just presented a panel on five studies regarding communication skills training and the realities of clinical practice at the 2014 conference of Communication, Medicine and Ethics. We found a disconnect between the foundational skills taught in the curricula and the reality of talking with patients and families in clinical settings. How do we create a more developmental approach to teaching communication skills from formal education to independent practice in the healthcare professions?