The way more easy is frozen the distance and watching the trend of energy:
1) Fast optimization for a monomer. This first step will save some steps later.
2)Select monomer, copy-paste in same zone. With alt+may you will translate monomer. With alt+ctrl you will rotate monomer in a line and only with alt you will rote in point. With this keys draw the first structure and with dihedral 1C-5C-13C-9C=180º you will put the monomers in the same axis.
3)Frozen the distances. Here you can frozen distance and for every optimization you done, this one will not change. In this case I would select to freeze the distance 5C-13C. Take care with coma.
4)Now it is necessary to start the search. For example you can start with a distance that makes O----H 3 amst which is a 5C-13C of 5.2 Amst. You opt this structure and write the E(MP2). Then, you can do different steps about 0.4 and 0.2 or 0.1 depending on the value of decreasing of energy E(3A)>E(2.6A) > E(2.2).... and for example, at the distance of 2.0A you see that the energy is bigger than last, then you find the distance with interaction effects. Take the last structure and then you can apply the TS reaserch.
5)Take care that first "NEGATIVE" vibrations have the inertia to produce the interaction and confirming that is a TS.
It is a short explication (and general) but if you have some question or you are looking for specific method or question, feel free to contact me.
Can you show the input commands? I recommend that if is your first time, will be more useful do the calculations with dft, fastter and you will see the geometry more or less with the ts. Tomorrow I will try to find a minutes to make an example for you of an two opt.
With the TS calculation you must add frequency. Then, with the first negative vibration, you must see a vibrational mode between opt and ts. In this case I think that TS vibration should be the H going to one and other O.
The strategy is find a minimum near tS by scanning some structures. Next, when you detect the structure which is high in energy, run a ts search with structure before higher. This ts search it is an optimization without frozen distances. When you have done this opt, the way to know if the structur is correct you shoud do a frequency run with the ts structure that you had obtained. Then, with freq you must see:
1. Only first frequency should be negative.
2. If you put view this negative freq you shoud see that its a part from reactants and the product.