I believe that largely, one would agree with me that there are a variety of reasons why our social lives are so far removed from democracy. One major factor is that in many places, democracy is seen as a form of government, rather than a principle of how to make decisions in every aspect of life. This means that many institutions and organizations are run in a top-down, authoritarian manner, rather than in a way that allows for a greater level of participation from all members of the organization.

Also, another major reason is that many people are not familiar with how democratic decision-making works. This means that when people are presented with the opportunity to participate in democratic decision-making, they often lack the skills and knowledge necessary to do so effectively. This can lead to an overall lack of participation in decision-making, which in turn leads to a more authoritarian structure.

Finally, in many places, there is a lack of trust in democratic decision-making. This is often due to a fear that democracy will lead to decisions that are not in the best interest of the group. This fear is often exacerbated by a lack of understanding of how democratic decision-making works and a lack of trust in those who are leading the process. This leads to a reluctance to participate in decision-making, which further reinforces a lack of democracy in our social lives.