I observed that most people enjoy courtship because love is active during this period. But in marriage, there seems to be conflicts because here love is passive. I discovered that most marriages collapse because men are pretenders in courtship period. Most of them are no more who they used to be during courtship- a romantic period. They grow traditional and more authoritative whereas women want to be romantic forever. Men should not tolerate in courtship what they cannot tolerate in marriage- a classical period. My understanding of Romantic Period and Classical Period is that of Courtship Period and Marital Period.
Men should maintain their Romantic Tempo of courtship during marital life. Women want to dream forever and they are often disappointed in any man who has stopped making them dream. Women are more romantic than men while men are more classical than women in marriage. This means that women loves freedom and equality while men try to prove to be more superior. This often leads to conflicts. I wonder why a man would kneel down to propose an engagement ring and later slaps this woman after marriage. Men only appreciate what they do not have access to, like a lady in office, sport ground and social contexts who may not even be as pretty as their wife. Why? They have access to their wives everyday and this often leads to not appreciating her beauty and tolerate her minor shortcomings.
But truth can also be conditional and time bound. What is true today may not be true tomorrow. Education was more important than farming before CoVid-19 outbreak. A partner can change after marriage. I have heard of a woman who married as a virgin but latter date the best friend of her husband who trusted her for modesty.
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