It is well known, at least well accepted, that the main factor of the energy loss of binary stars is the gravitational radiation. Since a paper of Peters and Mathews (Gravitational Radiation from Point Masses in a Keplerian Orbit // Physical Review. — 1963. — Vol. 131. — P. 435—440), calculation of the gravitational energy flow from some stars has no difficulties.
But my question is rather different - what factor provides the energy decrease of the star itself?
Peters and Mathews write that there is close ananogue between the electromagnetism and gravitation. So they derive their expressions in the similar way as it is made in electrodynamics.
In electrodynamics, the problem of calculation of self-force providing the energy loss of a charge radiating the EM waves is very complicated. The exact solution, in frame of the special relativity, of the self-force cannot be obtained. It is derived but gives unphysical runaway solution. Lorentz's approach to calculation of the self-force on the radiating charge is more physical. At least, in electrodynamics, one can calculate the reaction of the EM field on the charge.
Returning to the loss of the energy of rotating stars, there is no one expression which describe the back-reaction of the emitted waves on the massive body. So the only way to estimate the loss of the energy is to assume that this loss is equal to the power of the gravitational radiation. But in this way I face one problem.
Peters and Mathews derived some expressions for intensity of the emitted gravitational waves. Assuming these waves are emitted in accordance to these expressions. How to obtain the expression for the force which decelerates the binary stars?
If these stars move in circular orbit (problem # 1 of sec. 110 of Landau-Lifshitz, theory of field.),the acceleration is directed to the baricenter of the two-body system. Then the force of reaction - if it exists - should be directed from the baricenter. It should mean that the force of reaction intends to increase the energy of the system instead of decrease of the kinetic enerigies of the stars.
The force of reaction does not act in tangential (to the orbit) direction - L-L expressions in problem # 1 are symmetric with respect to angular coordinate.
Does it mean that the binary stars cannot lose their energies due to the gravitational radiation?