How to know who you really are? What do you pretend not to know? Why do not you do the things you know you should be doing? What are your values and are you being faithful to them?
I would like to know your estimated opinions researchers
These are large questions. I'll try to answer just your last question. I think the reason many people are not faithful to their values is because they have conflicting values. A family breadwinner sees it as important to support his family and promote a future for his/her children but at the same time may realise that their job is meaningless to them, or worse, is not socially useful.