I am currently working on a model which has steel beam whose one end is embedded in a concrete wall. The cantilevered end of steel beam is subjected to cyclic shear load. I am struggling to model the interaction between the portion of the steel beam embedded and the concrete. What will be the appropriate way to do it?

I tried by using 'hard' contact in normal direction and using coefficient of friction of 0.45 along tangential direction. The results obtained are different than experimentally observed.

Now, I am thinking of using surface based cohesive interaction, but I don't have necessary parameters which is needed for defining traction-separation and damage. Is there is a rational way to calculate these parameters without doing experiment?

Any suggestions and help will be appreciated.