Hi, I know only about old books, but look at the 85 references given here:

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/283512680_The_Gender_Gap_in_Second_Language_Acquisition_Gender_Differences_in_the_Acquisition_of_Dutch_among_Immigrants_from_88_Countries_with_49_Mother_Tonguesq

there is a good recent gender dif. study here:

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/291385544_Gender_differences_in_variability_and_extreme_scores_in_an_international_context

You may also take a look here:

http://brainlang.georgetown.edu/Individualdifferences#SexDiff

Sorry, I can not suggest recent books, hope other colleagues can.

Velina

Article The Gender Gap in Second Language Acquisition: Gender Differ...

Article Gender differences in variability and extreme scores in an i...

Try to type the words "gender" and "language" in google books search (or just use the link below). You will find a rich variety of books on the topic. Some of the books may be enabled for a "Preview", so you can see the contents and then decide whether  to buy the book or not.  

https://www.google.com.my/search?tbm=bks&hl=en&q=gender+and+language

Best luck!

Larisa

Hello there!

Here are some resources that may be helpful

http://www.oxfordbibliographies.com/view/document/obo-9780199772810/obo-9780199772810-0109.xml

These may not be entirly recent, but perhaps worth a look:

Speer, S. & Stokoe, E. (2011). Gender and conversation. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.

Speer, S. (2005). Gender talk: feminism, discourse and conversation analysis. London New York: Routledge.

Good luck

/jakob