No matter the gender, culture or circumstances, a combination of structure and warmth is best for children. Are you thinking about the home climate or educational climate? The same principle applies, but the specifics might differ. Military educational systems are highly structured, but generally lack the warmth necessary for ideal child-rearing.

Ok madam Rhianon Allen. Thank you for answering my question.

Your role as father is very important in the education of your daughters. Some considerations inspired in Pierpaolo Donati, Sociology of the Family (2003):

The family can be defined as a social institution based on complementarity between genders and on subsidiarity among generations (Badel et al., 2003).

Sexual identities are formed and reproduced from the family. Why? Precisely because the family is a relationship that is born specifically from the male / female couple, in which interactions and exchanges are not accidental. This means that the family is formed from the gender distinction, and all other gender distinctions are made from the family.

The father is more attentive to the capacity for initiative, the show of strength and competition, while the mother focuses on the aspects of health, care and affective relationships.

Gender becomes relevant in the family. There is a vital curve in the gender distinction. In early childhood, gender differences are minimal. The acquisition of sexual identity is a maturing movement. Subsequently, differences increase: the boy discovers himself different from the girls and from his mother, a recognition that is very important because it favors autonomy from her, while at the same time putting him in a position to imitate his father. The father becomes an object of admiration and affection on the part of the child, but at the same time of jealousy, for the love relationship between the spouses. The father ends up being the point of convergence of his feelings of hostility and love, in a conflict situation that generates ambivalence. This conflict is overcome little by little, neutralizing the opposite love / hate feelings, and it is when the child can assume his sexual identity by identifying with the father.

Something more complicated is the acquisition of sexual identity by women. The latter must renounce the mother as an object of love, to transfer her affective feelings to the father. In order to be able, in a second moment, to identify with the mother-woman, he will need to feel loved by the father in the same way that one lives in the marital relationship (central moment of the Oedipus complex). Separation from the mother after the first year of life is very difficult, since it involves establishing a kind of rivalry of a figure that is existentially dependent. This makes the daughter's ambivalence in relations with her mother more conscious and persistent, making her autonomy from the mother figure difficult. This ambivalence will characterize mother-daughter relationships in subsequent years, although in a more attenuated way. It can become particularly evident around the time of adolescence.