Both ethically and sustainably, joining the LGBTQAA+ community as an aromantic is better than membership as either Men Go Their Own Way(mgtow) and or involuntary celibacy ( incels). Particularly, because both the mgtow and incel movements tend to unjustly blame women for male struggles to obtain romantic companionship. Also because the category of incel only implies self-pity due to the concept being too faulty. No one knows for sure whether or not he, she, or any other pronoun are involuntarily celibate because too many potential partners exist. Thus, the term Incel should be renamed discouraged into celibacy or DECEL for short.