For men experiencing domestic violence from women, what are their coping strategies?
Can I get research on violence against men?
Olá, bom dia!
Certamente, haverá na literatura disponível , alguma resposta para a sua questão. Contudo, não sei responder, pois a minha pesquisa foi sobre adolescentes com DM1.
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The best way to cope up with domestic violence will be developing a safety plan in which initiate safety for the victim( male ) as well as children around such as locking room, plan foe safely leaving the house seeking medical treatment , seeking for help within close family members as well as community.
It depends on thye culture. Belief systems are the products of one's environment. If one has been trained by one's culture that, because they are male, to report themsleves being abused and ask for help is wrong, they have to learn to live with that abuse. They may have learned a victim response from growing up and from their own family so start there with the coping strategies they use. They won't initially understand why but those natural methods will seem normal to them so they will gravitate toward them.
If they don't have a reference point, it becomes a problem-solving exercise. They have to hide the loss of self-respect, the loss of identity, and the lack of knowing what steps to take. Depending on their resources, they will choose to either accept the pain and self-medicate their way through it, adopt a strategy such as sports, or adopt workaholism where they will be given the compensating praise at work for being so dedicated while that masks the failure they are at home.
The method they choose is a complicated game of balancing the scales and dependent on their extrinsic or intrinsic motivations. If they are motivated from outside themselves they will allow others to provide their direction. If they are motivated from within they will decide based on their own conclusions. The question often comes down to what they think being a man is and how they compare to that definition.
With female victims we have a population where their resources and their physical safety can be immediately controlled by the male. With male victims there are different sorts of factors because the DV against them is typically not the same - more financial and psychological than physical. To answer your question you need to look at both same-gender and different-gender relationships as well mas the various power and control systems representing the socioeconomic classes they belong to. It isn't as simple as "men" or "women" victims. It also isn't as simple as calling every problem between two people "domestic violence". There is "violence" and there is "abuse" and that is a major problem with the entire subject. Everything gets thrown into a single pot and simplified down to the point where even the label doesn't do the subject justice. You need to refine the question. Thanks.
Dear Goodluck,
I appreciate your question & concern! To begin with let me endorse Michael Pozesny's views that you need to re frame or be specific about this question.
Being a psychiatrist & psychotherapist I come across such patients. I usually treat them from both ways if they are willing, i.e. pharmacotherapy & psychotherapy simultaneously.
Coping strategy depends on detail information on why is one spouse aggressive or violent. To know such details one ought to evaluate both spouse with the help of (i) Psychiatric interview, (ii) Psychological assessment (iii) Pathological investigations to rule out hypothyroidism, hormonal imbalance (Testosterone, estrogen levels, etc), levels of Vitamin (B12, D), etc. (iv) metabolic disorders like DM, PCOS, etc.
Treatment/coping strategies will depend upon what is revealed in (i) detail psychiatric history, (ii) psychological scales like Couple conflict scale, YBOCS, HAM-D, etc. (iii) family history of both spouse, (iv) Type of parenting they have been exposed to when they were child.
Instruments to teach them coping strategy can be picked up from (i) Family therapy, e.g. Systemic family therapy, Bowen's family therapy, etc. (ii) Transactional analysis (PAC theory of TA)of Erick Berne (iii) Couple therapy, (iv) If any one of the spouse bears psychiatric diagnosis then (a) Psycho-education, (b) Client oriented psychotherapy, (c) positive psychotherapy, (d) if diagnosis is OCD/MDD then CBT or REBT (d) if any one of the spouse is addicted to substance like alcohol, Cannabis, marijuana, then Motivational Interview (MI), Integrated Psychotherapy cab be applied.
In short, couple/s ought to consult either psychotherapist & psychiatrist simultaneously (or someone like 2 in 1) to learn coping strategy!
Most men who suffer from domestic violence, take to abusing drugs to cope with domestic violence. Others can use defense mechanism such as displacement on other individuals. Domestic violence against men is common today and its good research topic
As answered by professor, it depends on the culture of the victim in the way one responds or reacts to domestic violence.
As Dr suggested, one has to conduct a thorough psychological investigation of both.
Very rarely male subject will be subjected to physical violence at home. except with persons with low physical energy, bad physical health, or if the person with substance abuse. If that problem is delt, can safeguard himself from physical violence.
Same is also true if wife is having any symptoms or any substance addictions.
Apart from physical violence, most victims are victims of emotional blackmails, extremely possessive; leads to jealousy, feeling insecure, too much unrealistic expectations, complexes, early post marriage experiences, amount of differences in sexual drives, intense likes and dislikes and many things.
For research, plug into a search engine. For coping, one serious problem is that there are almost no shelters for men being abused by women or other men. One needs a safety plan for them as well.
Here in the US, and in my clinical experience, men disengage, leave the relationship or retaliate. Men are taller, heavier, and stronger than women and can overpower.
Rich
I agree that that happens at times. Other times, men just leave, fearful. As I wrote earlier, they mostly have no safe places to go to. And they may wind up abandoning their kids.
There is a very good article by Corbally that oulines the narratives (some owud call this rationalizations) that abused men engage in to justify staying in the relationship. They have to think of it as noble or heroic:
•(ACCEPTABLE) LOVE NARRATIVE: Faults of the partner are overlooked + Hopefulness about the relationship
•(ACCEPTABLE) GOOD HUSBAND NARRATIVE: Being a good provider and a loyal and loving husband + Suffering the unjust nature of the abuse
•(ACCEPTABLE) FATHERHOOD NARRATIVE : Commitment to children + Fears about the “second wave of abuse” of losing access to their children
•(UNACCEPTABLE) ABUSE NARRATIVE: Directly challenges the men’s gendered assumptions of themselves--victimhood and vulnerability are disavowed within male identity
Corbally, M. (2015). Accounting for intimate partner violence: A biographical analysis of narrative strategies used by men experiencing IPV from their female partners. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 30(17), 3112-3132. doi:10.1177/0886260514554429
i used denial of the covert abuse, the overt abuse i didn't accept. if you want to interview people i have a lot of people i support in this, they may be willing :)
Sean Alan Platnauer, that is great. Thank you so much. How can I get their contacts?
There are very few statistics out there on this subject. There is very little if no support, my observation is the SUICIDE rates between men and women, the disparity, to me, shows two main issues.
1. There are no substantial support networks.
2. Because of 1 there is a massive suicide disparity.
This would be my start point.
Family court and removal from your children, will be a major factor in the the reasoning.
Removing a child is IVP Domestic spousal abuse, it is classed as this in the DSM-5.
Domestic violence isn't always physical.
The legal system aids a parents abuse of another parent and a child too.
The statistics for these deaths and those with CPTSD and other mental health problems is where to begin. Surveying , empirically cross board. Courts, victim help lines, support groups, hospitals, gp s . The data needs collecting statistics can be looked at.
Until then it's a world of WHAT IFS
the work by erin pizzey she tried to start the worlds first domestic shelter for men it failed. talk to her. the first one since then was in canada the person running it committed suicide. there is a lot of people to interview if you go looking. warren farrells work is interesting. dm me
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