It may be absolutely right but relatively wrong. Its not always right. In present society its more comparative rather than absolute. 

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." ― Mahatma Gandhi

Combining the above quote with the quote from Hemingway's "The Garden of Eden" in the question, it might be that the unhappy, intelligent people are lacking the harmony among what they think, what they say, and what they do because of too much thinking. I'm happy probably because I'm not so intelligent.

Are intelligent people unhappy people?

There are instances & possibility that some intelligent people are unhappy ones but not all intelligent people are unhappy people.  Some intelligent people might have higher expectation on themselves or on others in which failing to meet their expectations might causing the unhappiness.  On the contrary, not all people with lesser intelligent are happy people in which some not so smart people might happy-go-lucky.

Happiness is the commulative difference between what someone expects rationally or irrationally and what actually is happening. Intelligent people imagine wider, think right and rationally expects things around and beyond to be better in their own rational measurement , but they find that never happens in structures of man and hence they feel they live in a will fully  handicapped human society. This observation makes some of them to be unhappy and others come to terms with it and live accordingly. In this argument intelligence is not a means to live or fit into an existing system  but an intellectual and cognitive observation of a wider space of good possibilities and the inability of man not to see that and live up to that standard.

Dear Mariam

Unfortunately in some  societies  is completely true!

One reason why smart people fail to be happy is that they tend to be too strict with themselves. And here, I’m not talking only about one’s achievements and failures. Intelligent, deep thinking individuals often analyze themselves and their own behavior in such a rigorous manner like if they are intentionally seeking out things to blame themselves for.

Being truly understood by someone is one of the greatest experiences a human being can have. How comforting it is to sit with a like-minded person somewhere quiet and have a meaningful conversation, realizing that this person understands your ideas and shares your views of the world…

Sadly, intelligent people rarely have this pleasure. Many of them feel alone and misunderstood, like if no one is able to see and appreciate the depth of their minds.

But on the other side  of the coin, I know some  intelligent people in some countries  who are so intelligent and   are too smart to be happy and their  views  to happiness are just like  a skill, maybe eventually the intelligent people  are  fighting for their survival !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Intelligent people have minds thinking  all the time, that is why they find difficulty in feeling happy.

Hi dear 

I think it depends on the meaning of the happiness and the person. Intelligent people usually have high level of expectations in accordance with their minds. So, the final answer, Not all the time. 

Liqaa 

I don't think that being intelligent makes one an unhappy person. Being intelligent and unhappy is relative and may depend on individual differences.  

Intelligence and good morals (ethics) are the cause of most intelligent failures

This may lead to lack of happiness

Because it is easy to use intelligence without paying attention to others and this leads to success and happiness

Intelligence, with paying attention to others, is the reason for the misery of most intelligent people

Hemingway wrote fiction mostly for liberal arts majors.

As I know, Einstein was happy and funny man, on other hand knowing the truth may make one sad. I think man should be happy and forget any sadness but not to forget the its causes, life should be continued anyway.

Dear Munish,

Intelligent is subjective like those claimed by Dr Tatsuo.

Ernest Hemingway himself experience such self-awareness thus projecting his life images through his myriad of books, particularly "The Garden of Eden" - one of the reason he committed suicide - the failure to be happy coupled with debilitating illnesses.

It is with such understanding that "present society its more comparative rather than absolute".

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Mariam

https://www.biography.com/people/ernest-hemingway-9334498

There are three things, once one’s basic needs are satisfied, that academic literature points to as the ingredients for happiness: having meaningful social relationships, being good at whatever it is one spends one’s days doing, and having the freedom to make life decisions independently. But research into happiness has also yielded something a little less obvious: Being better educated, richer, or more accomplished doesn’t do much to predict whether someone will be happy. In fact, it might mean someone is less likely to be satisfied with life.

Adults tend to believe that intelligent kids can deal with anything because they are intellectually superior. This inevitably includes situations where the intelligent kids have neither knowledge nor skills to support their experience. They go through the tough times alone. Adults don't understand that they need help and other kids don't want to associate with kids the social leaders say are outsiders. People with high intelligence, be they children or adults, still rank as social outsiders in most situations, including their skills to be good mates and parents. Moreover, they tend to see more of the tragedy in the communites and countries they live in, and in the world, than the average person whose primary source of news and information is comedy shows on television. Tragedy is easier to find than compassion, even though compassion likely exists in greater proportion in most communities.           For more details , you can visit the following link:

http://davidhuerta.typepad.com/blog/2011/11/happiness-in-intelligent-people.html

It wholly depends on your own attitude towards others. Any form of intelligence should not limit your openness to other lifestyles; some intelligent people might be unhappy, becaus only a few people understand their topic. I can see no direct connection, concerning happiness and intelligence. Social communication and happiness are closer connected; some very over-competitive environments do oppress culturally happiness, due to being always better than others. Happiness depends on your view of the human being, e.g. on the practiced level of empathy. Your happiness depends also on the happiness of others.

In India intelligent people are rarely understood. They are always unhappy with the system and hence remains in pensive mood. They want everything in an ideal manner.

Most of the intelligent people I know are quite happy with others and alone.  They don't mind so much getting mystery illnesses diagnosed - they'd rather know the facts.  They find outlets for their creativity.  And they are never bored!

The reason intelligence creates hidden extra dimensions to create turbulence in the hemisphere of the person's mind, few example are quite enough

Georg Cantor -  suffered manic depression and died

Godel - suffered from isolation and developed public mania and depression and started to fear of being poisoned and died of sever starvation.

John Nash -  suffered from paranoia and schizophrenia.

Issac Newton - suffered from bipolar disorder and likely depression.

Bertrand Russell - suffered for the suffering of human kind: "Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind. These passions, like great winds, have blown me hither and thither, in a wayward course, over a great ocean of anguish, reaching to the very verge of despair" -Bertrand Russell.

Albert Einstein was ghastly annoyed  by racism in America and once said: " Racism is a disease of white people".  We can list many. 

There are very bright faculty members who looked the human society with some kind of suspicion and intrinsically dangerous to humanity and to themselves as well. Most of the time they are alone and barely talking to people but perfectly do their jobs.

Dear Tatsuo,

As per your quotation - Mahatma "happiness is by harmonizing what we think, say or do".

And that Hemingway was thinking differently when he quoted that it is "one of the rarest thing" as it was seemingly thought as the "sin" of overthinking.

It is true if overthinking destroys happiness because their overactive cognitive level affect their mood and spoil their behaviors, not to mention of others (Nolan, 2013).

And I do not think you are not intelligent Prof Tatsuo, Sir, you are just being modest and perhaps less harmonizing your overthinking to sync with Mahatma's message ;))

Thank you for your honest feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/peggy-nolan/happiness-tips_b_3473923.html

Dear Dr Tariq,

Indeed, intelligent and happiness are subjective.

Perhaps these "intelligent" people are not connected to reality thus fail to anticipate events. It could also be that they are not interested in such areas of perception.

Having happiness connected to social and scientific relationships could be correlations that such intelligent people are looking for instead of enjoying social banters that comes with social relationship. RG is one such outlet for such intelligent and happy people.

Thank you for your kind feedback and RG for providing this social and scientific platform so that some would rejoice the interactions and sharing of pertinent subject matters.

Best regards.

Mariam 

Dear Ping Fung,

Thank you for your insightful feedback.

The balance between being intelligent and happy is slice thin. It could be both, either and/or for those who go through this phase of life.

Same goes with the lesser intelligent and/or being happy people. It is about how to manage our expectations. Too high, it wrecks all life, intelligent or otherwise. If it is too low - self-esteem will be affected and depression sets in.

Still, scientists at the University of London have concluded that the key to happiness is having low expectations. On the other hand, it was found that positive expectations can make people happy as soon as those expectations are formed. But on the other hand again, positive expectations can lead to disappointment (Martin, 2014)

Ergo, the ability to maintain a safe balance of being "intelligent" and enjoying "happiness" by managing balanced self-expectation is probably the key to being - "happy-go-lucky".

Best regards.

Mariam

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/11013715/The-key-to-happiness-have-low-expectations.html

Dear Dejenie,

If happiness is the product of rational cumulative differences, many non-intelligent people would never feel happy because they are likely irrational.

Happiness is not a good barometer of rational measurement too as it is subjective. It easily differs within family members, colleagues even more so strangers.

 “The intelligent man finds almost everything ridiculous, the sensible man hardly anything.”  - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

That is why they live in a "handicapped human society" believing that others do not meet their criteria - thus leading to more unhappiness.

No matter how intelligent, ... a person is – it can always be difficult to find true connections so that all of the sharing and giving is not a one way street (Craig, 2016).

As pointed, intelligence is the "cognitive ability to a wider space" and not merely the "inability  not to see that " happiness as a "standard" to uphold.

Intelligent may or may not be a passport to such much sought after happiness after all.

Thank you for offering another view to my question.

Best regards.

Mariam

https://johnsimonds.com/2013/03/20/what-its-like-to-have-an-extremely-high-iq/

Dear Friend Parisa,

Thank you for your pro, cons and personal insight feedback on my question. It flows like a breeze ....

Intelligent people overanalyze everything (Truth Theory, 2017). That is one of the reasons why some society's intelligent people are engulfed in their own rigourous and analytical mode. It wreaks their happiness. if they find happiness in doing so, it could just be a fleeting moment before they succumb to low esteem. Not everything, happiness included, could be overanalyzed. Suffice to note that it is of analytic value but not the definition to a conclusion.

Misunderstanding is part of human cognition (Ali Khan, 2015). Intelligent people tend to be misunderstood, more so by their own circles; left those who are close or refined enough to get the cue from such intelligent people. It is understandably a comfort in itself to be engaged with your intelligent others, it could even be a shared happy moment too. For most intelligent people, it is more of a luxury than a necessity.

The intelligent people are indeed surviving in their own world. But the realm of happiness is open for everybody in the world. Just let go of yourself a little bit, lower your expectation somewhat, rejoice in less analytical mode and you are on your way to your newly created happiness.

Then again, others are natural enough to do so without any rationality or sensibility despite having intelligence ... to them, happiness is a paradise revisited.

And my friend, to have a quick intelligent banter with you means the world to me. Thank you for being intelligent and happy at the same time.

Best regards from Singapore.

Mariam

https://truththeory.com/2017/06/04/6-reasons-intelligent-people-fail-happy/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/liaquat-ali-khan/misunderstood-beings-such_b_8093578.html

Dear Arwa,

It is sad but true - that ticking and thinking mind makes life less happy.  But there are ways to overcome it.

The thinking mind as addiction: mindfulness as antidote (Peltz & Black, 2014).

Perhaps such concoction would spell happiness - eventually.

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/?term=The+thinking+mind+as+addiction%3A+mindfulness+as+antidote.

Dear Andreas,

Thank you for stating your personal unhappiness.

I pray you will find that silver lining and will message me if you have found them.

Take care my colleague and best regards.

Mariam

Intelligent people in the quest of more and more intelligence, do not enjoy their present and always think of future. Therefore, they are not happy but there are countless people all across the globe, who being extremely intelligent enjoy their life and lead to happy and peaceful life. 

Yes Liqaa,

Happiness is subjective.

High expectations from the intelligents are actually a necessity. That is one of the reasons why the expectations need to be lowered, without diminishing one's intelligence in order to attain such happiness.

Henceforth, true happiness does not work most of the time for the intelligence owing to that one factor amongst the many. But it works wonders for others at all times - again, subjectively.

Thank you for your concise contribution.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Emeka,

"Being intelligent and unhappy is relative" and "individual-dependent". Then again, being intelligent and happy are the goal of attaining self-actualization to some and a gem to others.

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear MA,

Intelligence and happiness are both relative terms; while the former is an outcome of a process the latter is a temporary mind state. The two may coincide in one person at one moment; but at other moments the latter may change. But I do not think it is always constant that both of them remain constant in one individual at all times. E. Hemingway may have had a peculiar case.

The statement can be true when the highly weighed opinions of the intelligent person is not applied in fruition in a society, thereby resulting in chaos, pain and affliction of its members. The intelligent person is in this wise pained and unhappy. This state is good since it is triggered by good intentions.

However, the vice versa can happen when the positive and meritorious views of the intelligent person is applied and is yielding beneficial results in communities. The intelligent person is elated and pumped with great happiness. 

Thanks

Dickson Adom

Intelligence differs from person to another, while you can find 2 very intelligent people, one can be happy while the other not; the reasonable explanation for this phenomenon, the first intelligent and happy person is the one who looks at life from a positive prespective, which provide him with a satisfactory feeling no matter what problmes are engulfing him; this is emotional intelligence; while the other intelligent person is unhappy one since he knows in depth about the reality of this life and hardships, which provides him a humanitarian side, as placing him self in others shoes, the latter also is distinguished by an emotional intelligence. Intelligence is a part of a personality and a human reality only, the circumstances, experiences, and nature of the person defines how will they invest his intelligence.

Dear Salam,

One of Intelligent meaning is revealing or reflecting good judgment or sound thought (Merriam-Webster, 2017).

Intelligent and good morals are the basis of reflecting good judgment or sound thought. It should not lead to unhappiness. Disregarding this would.

Imagine if your super smart and you have good morals, people respect you more and this enhance your self-esteem making you want to do more good. Likewise if you trampled on the juniors especially just because you are intelligent, would that make you happy - unless you are a narcist, there is no way such action could lead to anything but "perfection" or egocentric isolation.

If intelligence mean paying attention to others, it is the reason for the misery of most intelligent people, then you would be a lonely soul. Not even RG could make you happy because you do not pay attention to others, including your RG colleagues.

If you do not pay attention to my question or others in the RG, would that make you a happy soul for being an intelligent person? A sense of belonging to a community, society, organization makes us pay attention to others. Only the degree of attention is what makes you happy or otherwise because by then, you would become obsessed with others, then it would become the source of your unhappiness.

Thank you for your intelligent input.

Best regards.

Mariam

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/intelligent

Dear Jerry,

Hemingway writes mostly fiction for Liberal Arts major. Fiction as it is, we could still find examples in our daily lives where such things do relate to intelligent and happiness. He himself is one great example about being intelligent but still full of life unhappiness. His life is non-fiction considering he committed suicide despite writing fictions for academic objectives.

Thank you for your thoughtful feedback and best regards.

Mariam

Dear Sadeq, 

Einstein and Hemingway were real life funny and intelligent people. But both died of illness and suicide due to illnesses. And both have several marriages between them. Are they happy? Judging by their life histories, initially yes but at end-stage, I doubt so.

Intelligent or otherwise, happiness is crucial to everyone. Take care of your mental, emotional, physical conditions and just flow with life essentials.

Thank you for your kind feedback, Sir.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Edyta,

Thank you for bringing the truth to light.

Academic literature finds stark truth in intelligent and happiness correlations. You can be happy but once intelligent sets in that same happiness is diminished if not lost.

It is a sad phenomenon that we have to face. But it is not impossible to overcome. It is always doing things moderately - expecting, wanting, yearning that we could balance the intelligent-happiness equation.

A modest life from an intelligent person would make one happy, hopefully.

Best regards.

Mariam

It depends on a lot of things because intelligent is one thing and happiness is something else, they can be complimentary but in our life we usually we cry and get sad more than we get happy

Having been surrounded by Ph.D.s most of my adult life, I will state that as a group we are the most miserable people in the developed world.  Driven to compete, we are envious of our more successful colleagues and disdainful of those who are less accomplished than we are.  We ridicule the "unwashed masses" for their lack of advanced education, and we feel that we are slighted and under-recognized on a daily basis.  Why is it, we often ask, that we are surrounded by idiots who cannot recognize our brilliance?

The happiest people I've ever met have been uneducated peasants in the hinterlands of undeveloped countries.  God bless them.

Einstein survived many things, such as the Holocaust and came through it wiser.  I don't know how many people undergo such a tragedy and are left unscathed.  He was "only" 76 when he died of abdominal aortic aneurysm.  We all die and are probably not very happy when it comes, especially during the days or weeks that mark the "end" stage..  I don't know how we can judge what goes on in another's mind..  Especially how to construct a happiness quotient or a total happiness number. If we used the pain level 1-10 scale and integrated  from age 0 to 76 under the happiness function that might be one formula. 

If a college used a happiness number to see how happy a person has been up to the age of application to the school, would that be a good test to see how likely the person is to be a "good team player"?  Would you want to go to such a college? It really sounds big-brotherly or "1984"-ly to me. I'd want to say, keep your hands off my happiness and my intellect. 

James, she said "intelligent," not "overeducated," hohoho. (I'm sorry, I couldn't resist the temptation.)

Intelligence people & unhappiness do not go hand in hand , as intelligent  people have their own thinking phase & also have their own working environment & as such they may not be kept in side of unhappiness .

Intelligent people are also human being has their sensible ,& they have their own individual problems of their family & also in certain cases their own personal problem & in such cases this range of atmosphere has nothing to do with the intelligence as it is a problem of mind ,heart, feelings, emotional touch & such other areas .

In this line it is very likely that they have to under go a passage of anxiety ,worries,tension, frustration .It is only in such cases the question of unhappiness arises before intelligence people. With this intelligent & unhappiness can not be placed in the par .

This is my personal opinion 

Dear Ahmed, 

Thank you for another perspective on how adults tend to raise their intelligent child and themselves.

It could be that the culture of that society is to leave their children to be "intelligent" in the most natural way they could - finding all answers by themselves and facing the walls if they do any wrong. This could be the societal norm that is being passed from time immemorial but unique to some society.

While it is never wrong to leave the "superior" intelligent children to find life meaning themselves, But it is always wiser to leave them when they have reached their teenage years where any advises would by then be less heard of by the children as they started to be more closer to their friends

Formative years till about 12 years are most crucial for the affective, behavioral and cognitive development of children.Without help, emotionally, mentally and physically they are just like a Harlow isolated monkey experiment. They start to "create" their own parents in all form they could find pathetically but they never grow fully save for a false comfort that they have had. Some even die before they reach such age owing to the lost of human touch and love apart from their growing nutritional needs. Even the adults need that magical human touch at least once/day/week/month/years just to note that they are alive. To think that an abandoned child could be intelligent and yet remain untouchable is the most unimaginable thing to do (my thoughts, personally).

If we wish our child to be left alone from small; only to approach them back in their older years, consider if they are alive long enough to reach such age. They would totally have abandoned ships and leave their "intelligent" parents the same way they did them. If that is termed as intelligent, what meaning it holds when you lose your children when they are still small and they lose you when you are shaking and your brain is waxing and waning, life permits for both.

It does happen and I have seen it happen here in Singapore. The after effect is the most irreversible damage. A sad tale that could affect any "intelligent" global society. Well, to each his/her own - you reap what you sow and if you think you would only want profit from your untouchable seed, well - think again intelligently.

Best regards.

Mariam

https://psychlopedia.wikispaces.com/Harlow%27s+Monkey+experiment

Dear Stephen,

Intelligent and Happiness are subjective. We may be misunderstood because we may not realize that we are not giving the right signals to the listeners.

Communication is just the mode of us sending messages to others. How we encode and how they decode may mean differently. They affect happiness when the messages are wrongly interpreted or interpolated. Communication could enhance happiness or reversely, it could hamper happiness.

Over or rather ever-competitive environments need personal and social rationalization to achieve mutual happiness. It is one that we cannot stop especially in terms of our job scope and our performance expectations while working at grueling pace. More so, when we classify ourselves as "intelligent" people because we ourselves find it hard to please ourselves, let alone to make others happy. But we can try ...

Happiness do come in many forms and need not be pegged to intelligent alone. Making others happy, seeing others happy apart from creating your own happiness are the best recipe to attain happiness. But like all other cultures, it may not work at all - that closeness, that great attitude to uplift people spirits etc. because some people just do not measure happiness using the same barometer as we do.

Thank you for your insightful feedback, Sir.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Anirbid,

It is a matter of support - mental, social and governmental.

It is also about how we manage our expectations and whether we ourselves contribute towards our unhappiness instead of ameliorate it by being positive and proactive.

Only then we could move on with our lives happily because the only world that could change is only ours. Others would not bother about changing whatever system or if they do, it would still not be too our liking because it is their world. If we want the world to be ideal, we need to create our model first and then we propagate it to the world, By then, if they would not like it - it's our ideal world; right?! Nothing else matters.

Thank you for offering a good example from your own country.

Best regards.

Mariam

Yes Dear Martha,

I have long met intelligent and happy single global friends who survive all negative ordeals too.

Intelligent people have the mental capacity to overcome grievances and life adversities much better than their counterparts. They could analyze any facts and reasons rather than succumb to their gloominess. They also know how to create their own positive world so that nothing could dent them, not even by such mystery ill-diagnosed malady. Life has to go one alone or in company of like-minded person.

Still we lost people like Hemingway and Robin Williams despite their seemingly life positivity only to lose their life eventually out of ultimate despair. My pity goes out to such people, it is not only a waste of intelligence but the loss of good friend, father, colleague, companion etc. to some and all of us.

Everything comes in a pair - intelligent over non-intelligent, happiness vs unhappiness. The twain can meet but still divorced circumstantially.

Thank you for your personal experience on meeting such great people.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Dejenie,

Thank you for your great example of tragedy that landed intelligent people.

Surprisingly, such suspiciously bright personality thrive in secrecy and being alone most of the time. But are they happy? Perhaps - after seeing so many "gullible" people. But would loneliness alone be sufficient reason to enjoy personal happiness using intrigue as their modus operandi? Only they themselves know the answer.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Jasna,

I would say it is the sin of pride. High expectations from self and others. Too high self-esteem would be damaging too. Humility and modesty are the most favorable antithesis.

When the lesser advantage people could simply attain happiness simply is the only way to ponder as to why we set ourselves so high (although, we are already at such pedestal) when we could be so humble with less effort and be like the lesser others and still be happy nonetheless.

Thank you for an interesting feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Professor Sinha,

It is all about the management of our self-satisfaction. How we want our happiness to promulgate. How to enjoy it. Let others be intelligent and sad. Let us not be like them but shine happily with our intelligence.

Thank you for your enlightening feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Chuka,

Intelligent is cognitive and happiness is affective. Simply put, intelligent is more the brain work and happiness is the feeling that we have. Both wax and wane like EEG brain activities. Non-static but volatile and ever-changing.

That is why, Tatsuo ever mentioned about Hemingway "non-harmonizing" factor that resulted in his death. It is not a peculiar case - just tragic because of his failed coping (harmonizing) strategy.

Thank you for your kind feedback and best regards.

Mariam

Dear Dickson,

It is a matter of social comparison - upward or downward. 

If the intelligent "looked downward" upon his society, he is happy because he is more "intelligent". This motivates him to work more and enjoy the environment.

But he becomes sad when "he looks upward" and find that there are many above him who are more intelligent. He becomes hopeless and depression sets in thus making him very frustrating and disappointing.

Those are the unwritten and unspoken social contract when a person joins a society or belong to groups, institutions or organizations. It also happens when one is alone contemplating on a "looking glass" after interacting with others (Johnson, 2017).

Thank you for your kind feedback and best regards.

Mariam

http://study.com/academy/lesson/charles-horton-cooley-theory-microsociology.html

Dear Fatima,

Intelligence refers to intellectual functioning; a cognitive function (APA, 2017).  

Intelligent is not a personality. Personality refers to individuals' characteristic patterns of thought, emotion, and behavior, together with the psychological mechanisms -- hidden or not -- behind those patterns (Cherry, 2016).

Emotional Intelligence (EI) often have equated it to other personality traits however, it is not agreeableness. It is not optimism. It is not happiness. It is not calmness. It is not motivation. Such qualities, although important, have little to do with intelligence, little to do with emotions, and nearly nothing to do with actual emotional intelligence (Mayer, 2009).  

EI is the regulator or people with high EI, we believed, could solve a variety of emotion-related problems accurately and quickly. High EI people, for example, can accurately perceive emotions in faces . They know that angry people can be dangerous, that happiness means that someone wants to join with others, and that some sad people may prefer to be alone (Mayer, 2009).

While intelligent gives serious thoughts to happiness. EI regulates the mood of being happy by perceiving the person and his surroundings. EI can control happiness but is not happiness per se. Therefore the trio is never the same (in this case - Intelligent, EI and Happiness)

The happy part is Intelligent can breed happiness through EI. But there are some people who refuses to adopt such stance.

Thank your for your kind feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

https://www.verywell.com/what-is-personality-2795416

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-personality-analyst/200909/what-emotional-intelligence-is-and-is-not

http://www.apa.org/topics/intelligence/

Dear Mariam Ahmad Madam,

Intelligent people tend to spend quite some time with their thoughts in solitude hence they socialize less than average people. Intelligent people are also rarely interested in other people’s life. Intelligent people see average people being more appreciated than them in the social aspect of life & Making their ego too big to enjoy a happy social life.

Dear Jasna,

Thank you for your kind and sincere feedback

I do apologize if my word is a bit strong on the "sin of pride" - it might hurt you and some intelligent colleagues out there but it was never the intention at all.

Let me deliberate it further.

Pride is not so much about something that someone has to be spiritually attached to rather a disposition that could be created, innate, diminish or perpetuate. It does have the element of pros and cons. Personally, it is a matter of choice (if not biological) and a lifestyle.

From what I could deduce from your feedback, - it makes one satisfied and  happy at oneself and especially within their social group. That one could act calmly and confidently knowing that one understands the situation much better a.k.a. intelligent and that high expectation could bring out the idealism further than the less intelligent that it could be misconstrued and misheard truth are misunderstood totally. The latter which makes one sad.

The following is as pointed by an international leadership guru - Jeremie Kubicek

It is better to be humble than proud; secure instead of insecure; confident instead of overconfident and responsive instead of resistant (Kubicek, n.d.).

In a nutshell -

http://jeremiekubicek.com/humility-vs-pride/ 

Humility is a virtue, feel secure, strength, confident, need not prove or hide something, attractive, make others want to follow, understands themselves well, not afraid to take constructive criticism and counsel, responsive to God, themselves and others and understand their dependence on God and yield to HIM.

Pride is the direct opposite - non-virtuous, feel insecure, overconfident and try to convince others that they are good enough to be doing what they are doing, a weakness, always proving and hiding themselves, obnoxious, causes to flee, hasn't taken time to  truly understand oneself, want to be someone else and blame others when weaknesses appears, resistant and see everyone else as problems and proud people are their gods and over emphasize themselves.

If I could quote a living example that reflect both humility and pride - Obama and Trump are the best candidates respectively. Both are intelligent and both are happy in their own differential way.

http://edition.cnn.com/2017/06/28/politics/trump-obama-relationship/index.html

Obama is humble without being non-intelligent. Soft without being trampled upon.  Obama gains many good friendship from great people pre and post presidential designate, respect himself, his staffs  and others without bringing down even the largely one-sided acrimony from Trump; he has never made a direct insult on Trump's character. 

Trump is proud, overconfident, "operates by making people his enemy," said the official". Trump feels increasingly isolated with some western leaders and the former said that he acknowledged  int the CBS interview that he has "no relationship" with Obama. 

On the aspect of intellecttual humility -

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/03/170317082517.htm

"Intellectual humility" has been something of a wallflower among personality traits, receiving far less scholarly attention than such brash qualities as egotism or hostility. Yet this little-studied characteristic may influence people's decision-making abilities in politics, health and other arenas, says new research from Duke University.

In a time of high partisanship, intellectual humility -- an awareness that one's beliefs may be wrong -- is nonpartisan. Researchers measured levels of the trait, and found essentially no difference between liberals and conservatives or between religious and nonreligious people 

"If you're sitting around a table at a meeting and the boss is very low in intellectual humility, he or she isn't going to listen to other people's suggestions," Leary said. "Yet we know that good leadership requires broadness of perspective and taking as many perspectives into account as possible."

"Not being afraid of being wrong -- that's a value, and I think it is a value we could promote," he said. "I think if everyone was a bit more intellectually humble we'd all get along better, we'd be less frustrated with each other."

These are what I wish to convey when I said about the "sin of pride" - not religiously but rather metaphorically. To be intellectually humble and yet not losing our sight on being an intelligent person; belonging to a prestigious society, having that composure, loud enough to be heard of, to be able to inspire truth in our actions and belief system and the directional force to lead the lesser knowledgeable to a more promising world, be it home or workplace, if not a country.

I hope this could uplift your spirit and not be totally mired by the "sin" inasmuch as my concern is more on the intelligent aspect that could give one happiness. Being humble is one of the way to carry the torch but being proud, as you put it - in a positive way, is also never wrong and a pathway to your happiness. So that you would no longer feel that your truth be misheard or misunderstood at all.

Thank you for your kind understanding.

Best regards.

Mariam

http://jeremiekubicek.com/humility-vs-pride/

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/03/170317082517.htm

http://edition.cnn.com/2017/06/28/politics/trump-obama-relationship/index.html

Dear Kiran Madam,

Intelligent makes one lonely - because the intelligent ones are always full of in-depth thoughts in "solitude". It could be owing to their profession, nature or nurture. It is a boon as it makes one understands how things work and that nobody can take advantage over us because knowledge is power. Then again it could be a bane socially because we tend to be uptight and whereas our counterparts rejoice socially without much effort. Time is also not a good factor for those intelligent people whose duty are always "on-call" owing to their intelligence. This makes it all the more reason that intelligent people have less time to socialize even among their peers, seniors ,juniors or even patients (in healthcare) or students (in institutions). They could only envy those average people when they see the laughter and joy they exude together. And we are trapped in our own world finding solutions to every single thing that we would not be interested about others and  sometimes even ourselves. Fret not, for every gift there comes the pitfalls but churn it right and you too can become intelligent and happy even at your solitary workplace or home the way you want it.

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Best regards

Mariam

Intellect is of two kinds - one is technological and other is social. People with social intellect are able to understand his society and surroundings, and found more successful. Sometimes such people utilize people with technological intellect. That is my personal opinion.

Hi 

Not all the time. It depends on the person him/herself .

This is consistent with what is sometimes said that  “ignorance is bliss”. 

There seems to have very serious discussions here of intelligent people. On a lighter note, I think intelligent people can find ways to be happy if they wanted to and hence, not always unhappy. 

Dear Khodr,

True enough - to be intelligent is one; to be happy is another. Complimentarily, it is a concoction of life blissness -  a perfect goal. Yet, the reason we cry more than being happy is sad enough.

Why we do so?  It is understandable owing to professionals calling, loneliness of being "the" intelligent amidst the "ignorance". The individual expectation of his overwhelming performance and the group not looking at all at such super achievements.

Happiness is ours for the making. We are intelligent enough to know what makes us happy and what is not. We are different from the "ignoramus" but why we choose to be sad? Please do not be. Please choose the best path to make yourself happy because we are intelligent, aren;t we?

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam 

Dear James,

I respect the fact that you are surrounded by Ph.Ds for most of your adult life. Being creme-de-la-creme and watching others being one or many of those are what makes you happy and envious at the same time. And rather disdainfully dismiss the "unwashed masses" owing to their educational lacking or thereof.

Who slighted you and your group - aren't they your own group; your significant others or those "idiots" who cannot recognize your brilliance?. 

You still envy those "uneducated peasants in hinterland" and pray them well? Why aren't you praying for your poor soul who fail to recognize that education or rather intelligence alone does not make you much happier?

Being surrounded by those at par or somewhat near your kind of super achievements should be good enough an endorsement for high self-esteem but you choose to go down the level of those way below you to look up upon your good self and give you that self-endorsement that you so much seek from those insignificant others. I don't think you would be happy with those "idiots" to praise you. So why burden yourself with such remarks, if any?

Why bother so much about others happiness when you are driven to compete - can't you compete with the "unwashed masses" for your own happiness? Use your intelligence and strive for your own self-actualization - you are thereabout. Don't fall for other "idiotic trap" that are waiting to "brilliantly" retort you instead of singing you praises that you much longed for - perhaps you yearn for such happiness? Don't be. You are too highly respected to stoop so low now that you have proven your worth.

At this stage, if you could not create your own happiness, I do not know what else would - joining "the happiest people I've ever met have been uneducated peasants in the hinterlands of undeveloped countries" would be a wonderful option, perhaps?

Thank you for stating your unhappiness despite being "super" intelligent.

Best regards.

Mariam 

Dear Martha,

If you're talking of end-stage happiness and Likert pain scale - it has to be 10 most of the time, Einstein or not. How could there be happiness when every movement spells pain and depression - something many could not deny though few would manage to dismiss.

If you're talking about such scale be juxtaposed in the realm of education. Like you, I run away and let others take my place. As you aptly  quoted - "keep your hands off my happiness and my intellect".

Thank you for differentiating end-stage and education in terms of intelligent and happiness. Respectively, the former is somewhat correlated and the latter less desirable.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear David,

I take it that James is intelligent enough to note on this (understandably).

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Rohit,

If intelligence and unhappiness go hand in hand because of overthinking and workplace pressure, those are rational enough.

That most of the intelligent people are more sensitive about their families and surroundings.

Putting those two together could prove more disaster (unhappiness).

But think again, the non-intelligent or average person are also "human being". They go through life phases where they have to overthink about survival alone not to mention about workplace - which some have none, imagine their great disappointment and unhappiness.

Are they not hypersensitive  because they lack intelligent? No - it is because they too have families to feed too and not having the privilege to offer some to their very own biological others would create more anxiety and depression. 

Sometimes, they are not intelligent because of situation, some believe "in the blood" but I do believe some are not given the chance to prove that they too could be one of the intelligent person(s) if the playing field is levelled. It could even be the lack of nurture and the by-product of "intelligentsia" dump field.

In fact, intelligent or not, we go through the same phase as our counterparts. Coping them is another matter. Whether we blame on all others except ourselves or are we willing to embrace that unhappiness and churn it into our very own brand or happiness. The choice is ours, no matter how limited our time, space, privacy or wants. We are the creator of our own happiness, intelligently.

You are not wrong in your perspectives but I have seen the failure of the governing system in offering the same level playing field to create intelligentsia that costs two generations to lose their intellectuals but not anymore. Happiness both belong to the lost generations and the gap that they created. The lack of "being intelligent" does not diminish their offsprings to be unhappy one iota. Ever since then, the return of such intelligent generations has superimpose their own happiness, thanks to the system failure.

Thank you for your kind feedback.

Best regards.

Mariam 

Dear Prabhat,

Intelligent in two parts - that of technological and social are commendable.

Technologically correct or rather precision in the engineering, technological and healthcare are examples that require greatest attention and details. One cannot be wrong in one's judgement and intelligent is required to solve any "technical" or intelligent details that went awry. Time is always a weakness, so too are companionship because we tend to be self-opinionated and isolated for that matter owing to our intelligent committment. Happiness is seemingly too distant.

The "social" people tend to be more happy owing to their engagement without being less intelligent. But this too is not true fully because like Medical Social Workers, they tend to find means and ways to relieve the less intelligent and less provided for, handicapped medically and suchlikes. Time too is of the greatest essence not to mention the gravity of finding funding needs. It is all the same for these professionals too. Happiness is still far to reach.

While it is not wrong to say technologically, one is less happier and the social "people" are much happier - given the same workplace demand for both, precision for the former and emotional for the latter; both intellectuals are equal in their pursuit for happiness.

Personally, I have friends and acquaintances in both areas, they make valid reasons to state their unhappiness despite being intelligent. But both make valid effort to create their own happiness in their most quality ways too.

Thank you for sharing your personal observation. Best regards.

Mariam 

Dear Jasna,

Please do not be discouraged, i was just depicting the two sides of the coin in order to achieve the much elusive happiness without losing our intelligence altogether. You are not beyond humility - my subject matter is humility-inclusive. My experience lies in the fact that I counselled many while observing others. So you are not wrong to mention your own experiences too.

On the individual platform - pride is important and need not be thinned unless we could carry on our work without the assistance of others totally. Standing tall during those indefinite moment of truth is all the more reason to be proud especially when you know you are on the right track, initially or eventually.

On the collective side, it is necessary to be proud to belong to such intelligent group. Getting to talk the same language and enjoying professional banters occasionally. Those are happiness in itself.

Don't get me wrong - do not stash away the centuries old pride when it fits aptly. But to diminish it on less important matters would alleviate your happiness further.

Your stance that humility is "the best way to support life under all conditions, favorable and adverse alike, whereas pride - nurtured in former - can serve as defense of life under latter conditions" are most fitting.

Let's continue with our lives the way we deem fit - intelligently and happily. There is no right and wrong in your answers just a matter of differences in my experiences and the society I live in.

Thank you for sharing your personal experience and pointing the reasons as to why pride and humility do not meet at all times - especially when we are intelligent and in need of great happiness.

Best regards.

Mariam 

Dear Liqaa,

Thank you for your kind opinion.

It is true that intelligent and happiness depend on the person himself/herself. Whether he/she finds them important to pair or divorce them from his/her life.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Amir,

"Ignorance is bliss" when overthinking is a burden that one could not carry. It is the fate of the intelligent to carry such weight considering the benefits are "overburdened" too.

Thank you for your kind sharing.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Romer,

That's where my question is leading to - trying to "marry" intelligent with happiness. Apparently it is not easy to prove it either ways.

Thank you for sharing the same sentiment exactly.

Best regards.

Mariam

Mariam,

Speaking of end-stage feelings, I have been thinking about that very thing.  I think most of us dread it immensely.  When I was having my kids, the first time I had never heard of the Lamaze system for controlling the pain of childbirth and it was just awful!  Then I took the classes in preparation for the birth of the next child and it was amazing - we had been taught that when you are about to experience the next contraction there is a very effective kind of breathing that really does keep most if not all of the pain at bay.  One of the things you do along the way is to prepare a report on how each of the phases of birth felt including a graph of your contraction..

Now here's what I've been thinking about lately.  It would be wonderful if it were possible for the dying person to get a similar training for death.  My son had done a ten-day course in Vipassana.  He felt that it would indeed be good preparation for death.  In particular, since the student is learning how to handle the bodily sensations it seems to me that Lamaze is a kind of Vipassana specifically catering to childbirth.  Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Dear Martha,

Human evolution comes with medical evolution. That is why currently you too find Lamaze beneficial for birth pain control complete with graph as statistics.

I am not sure Vipassana could be the other Lamaze for deathbed pain control. But I do understand that the training is not suitable for everybody. Anyway if your son feels good about it, it should be continued.

But the meditation experts does not take in depression patients, the too weak, psychiatric patients, those with emotional upheavel. Vipassana is an art of living, a way of life -  it is the cultivation of human values leading to a life which is good for oneself and good for others (Goenka, n.d.). It is not the way to die nor a deathbed pain control training centre too.

Although it is nice to have vipassana as the way to train oneself to prepare for death, with the limitations they impose - it is not relevant to those already sick, left those with minor maladies.

Ironically hospice and palliative care despite being a holistic care centre for terminally ill patients does not mean that patients are moving towards death as some do  go on to live normal lives for some years (Singapore Hospice Council, 2017). 

The best preparation is to seek medical help for medical issues and spiritual aid for the preparation of death. No amount of yoga or vipassana could control our mind (personally) once death comes because we would not even know when He comes a knocking at our door - be it at our workplace, hospital or in the midst of doing something or going somewhere. And I could not comment further as I am no expert in this area.

But it is good to prepare for death at anytime because death comes for the young ones too.

Thank you for another intelligent insight on reaching happiness by controlling pain at end stage level. I do sincerely hope you find what you are looking for.

Best regards.

Mariam

https://www.dhamma.org/en/about/qanda

https://singaporehospice.org.sg/hospice-palliative-care/

Dear Mariam Ahmad,

Generally speaking,People are different from  from one another in significant ways. Such differences arises from the fact that individuals have their own unique personality traits, which are not necessarily linked with the trait of intelligence. The reason is that the majority of  these traits are entwined with  feelings and emotions, on the one hand, and social interactions on the other hand. Such dominating factors pave the ground differently for the people and the way they attain their goals. As an illustration, intelligent people may never actualize their creative potential because the context is not ripe enough for them to prove themselves to the community to which they belong. Alternatively,  Maslow’s conception of   “self-actualizing personality” highlights the fundamental role of the environment so much so even intelligent people's exceptional cognitive powers remains dormant if the surrounding factors are not favorable. The reason is that  self-actualization requires both the satisfaction of needs and the development of cognitive competence(i.e. knowledge and intelligence). On this basis, being happy and being intelligent are in some way interrelated, but paradoxically, they happen to be separate from one another. An example may help clarify the point. If the community in which you live does not provide for your physical and emotional needs, and if you do not acquire the cognitive awareness of the kind of person you are, you may lack the sensitivities defining your state of happiness.

Best regards,

R. Biria

Dear Luis-Felipe,

That is the whole idea of my asking this question because I find "most" intelligent people are unhappy people.

I have been looking into positive psychology - one that posits positivities in every aspects of our life. We could churn anything into what we want and not the way others want it - that is happiness by itself.

To revert to negativity and remain so for idealistic reason maybe good and apt but it is more damaging to oneself and to those who are under their care in the long run - be them patients, students, family, friends etc.

Happiness is everywhere and sometimes it is never easy to acquire it, yet happiness always lurks when we least expect it. Grab it and we are on our way to great happiness, intelligently.

Thank you for a positive reply on being intelligent and happy at the same time.

Best regards.

Mariam

Dear Reza,

Maslow's self-actualization stage is rarely achieved even if one assumes one has attained such pedestal status. That is the reason why the cognitive and the social contract have always run amuck and affect not only my society but universally.

Intelligence per se is no reason to be happy. And happiness is not the result of being intelligent. Such paradox makes one wonders wherein lies the thin line of being both intelligent and happy.

Perhaps on individual platform, we may be intelligent despite the society branding it differently. On societal plane, we need to conform to the social contract of "being intelligent" and /or being "happy".

Herein lies the contention, if we are with our in-group, it is easier to state our intellectual traits thus uplifting our intelligence and happiness but with the out-group the same level of cognitive delights are differently served or savoured.

Therefore Maslow's self-actualization theory is always criticised heavily because it has yet to be proven to serve our cognitive needs beyond societal needs. Ergo, the twain - intelligent and happiness are differently and illusively perceived.

I do appreciate your kind contribution and best regards.

Mariam

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Yeah !! This is pretty true. I have seen few intelligent people who can't stay happy. They are in constant search for new avenues to experience and explore and if they get stuck somewhere they become too harsh for themselves. I know many idiots who chirpy and joyous.